Words matter!

Words matter, words matter, words matter!!! Get it?! In a culture that bandies about the word, ‘bully’ and where people can get sued for their words (I’d say it’s the giant soda she is drinking contributing to her weight issues and not necessarily the condition she was born with) and… (whatever happened to the 1st Amendment protecting everyone?) words are still being used carelessly.

Instead of having something negative scrawled across your body, try putting positive words there, and everywhere else you want to see a change in your life.

I’ve written before about the power of words: LINK and I will continue to do so as long as I see the need to remind people; words matter!

Think about those science fair projects where the kid played heavy metal music for one bean plant, and classical music for another. The plants that were played heavy metal music were malformed and under developed. The plants that were played the classical music were bigger, stronger and healthier.

Masaru Emoto, was a Japanese author, researcher and entrepreneur, who claimed that words have an effect on the molecular structure of water. (You can find his books on Amazon.) Words such as, ‘stupid’, ‘idiot’, and the like created misshapen water crystals while words such as, ‘love’ ‘gratitude’, and ‘thank you’ created beautifully formed water crystals. The words that positively effect water the most are; ‘love’ and ‘gratitude’. Emoto also did an experiment with cooked, white rice. He placed the same amount of rice and water in three beakers. To the first beaker, he spoke, ‘love’ and ‘gratitude’,  to the second beaker, nothing at all, to the third beaker, he spoke negative words. The only beaker that did not end up getting mouldy and gross after one month, was the beaker that had been spoken to with positive words. The one that was ignored had some, what I would call ‘normal’ amounts of deterioration you might see if rice was left out for a month. the beaker that had the negative words spoken over it, however, was quite altered. It was badly decayed. It had higher levels of mould, and the mould was darker and appeared more severe. You can find Emoto’s rice experiment on Youtube.

Given all the studies done on the effect of words on people, and our environment, why are we still tossing them around like live hand grenades, not caring where they land or about the damage they will do? Words have such an enormous impact that, Jesus said, ‘it’s not what we put into our mouths that destroys us, but what comes out of our mouths’. Words, my friends, are not to be taken lightly.

Are there areas in your life where you could do better at the words you use? perhaps with your spouse, your children, or your co-workers? Maybe you’ve used the anonymity of the Internet to cast harsh, unkind, and damaging words onto those with whom you do not agree? Words are SO powerful. Perhaps we all need a mental picture in our minds to remind us to use them with caution?



Are you positively negative?

Are your words of, ‘inspiration’ like this?



Or are they more like this?



The first message is negative. Yes, it could be looked at as funny… in a self sabotaging and depreciating manner. You’re telling yourself that you are beyond the capacity of self management and basically in need of a babysitter. Are you five? NO! You’re a grown up. If you want to eat crappy food then eat it but be ready to deal with the consequences WITHOUT whining. This is called, ‘negging’.

Negging is a rhetorical strategy whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise insulting remark to another person in order to undermine his or her confidence in a way that gains approval. The term was coined and proscribed by the seduction community.

It may have started in, and become popular with, the ‘seduction community’-ew! But like many bad ideas that turn into a part of our culture, it has become socially acceptable to put one’s-self down. perhaps in a rush to show some sort of humility before someone comes along and cuts us down for standing too tall?

The truth of the matter is that; change, real change is difficult. We need all the help and support we can get. there will be plenty of haters out there ready to tear you down and dance when you fall. Don’t be your own hater. Be disciplined. Fill your life with inspiration. If anyone (only the insecure people will do this) makes fun of you for being positive, brush off their words, hang another quote on your office wall and keep going. They’ll soon be choking on your dust trail as you leave them behind wondering why you’re more successful, fit, and happier than they are.


There’s the reading, and then there’s the doing

Your library of success, motivational, and personal growth reading and viewing material is growing larger by the month. You’ve absorbed so much information that you feel as though YOU could be the next big name in motivational speaking. The only problem is… you have done nothing with the information you’ve gleaned. You haven’t stated a company. You’re not the world’s greatest sales person and you never did drop those last 10 pounds you swore you would after watching the latest trendy weight loss show. So now what? Go back over the material and read it, or watch it again. THIS time however, do it with a note pad and take notes. Is there a list of things to do? write them down, do them, and cross them off when you’re done. If you are supposed to talk to 3 people per day about your business, get out there and talk to three people about your business. Your business is not going to be successful if no one knows that you are doing a new business. When people ask them what you are up to these days… TELL THEM! if you are too embarrassed to tell them, you either need new friends, or a new business. If you decide to keep your friends, then you MUST tell everyone about your new business. Then ask them for your help. it’s up to them to decide if they are going to help you or not. It’s up to them to decide if they are going to buy something or not. Don’t take anything away from them. let them make up their own minds. In the mean time, you just keep on doing your thing. What’s the thing you’re supposed to be doing? The thing you read about in that book that’s sitting in your library.

Don’t merely be a collector of knowledge. Be a doer of the knowledge you have acquired!